Ditching Toxic Habits for Fair Play with Eve Rodsky

Feel like you contribute more to the household duties than your partner? Do you find yourself saying, “I’ll just do it myself” more than not? If you’re feeling burnt out or overwhelmed by all of the invisible mental work required to run a household, this episode has your solution. Eve Rodsky, author of the best-selling book Fair Play, is sharing her simple strategy for dividing household tasks fairly using boundaries, systems and communication. Whether you’re single and can use this information to start strong in your next relationship, are married or have kids and truly need more peace and to truly be able to enjoy your free time, we hope this conversation is helpful, validating and enlightening. 

“A boundary is 3 things: a permission to be unavailable from your roles, vanquishing guilt and shame in that unavailability so it doesn’t ruin your unavailable time and being able to ask for what you need.” - Eve Rodsky

What we talk about:

  • Scheduling European adventures (Kristina lets us know THE time to be in the Greek islands)

  • Kristina has a spooky story that will give you chills

  • Our hot take on The Kardashian’s new Hulu show

  • The “invisible mental load” we carry

  • WHY women have been pigeon-holed into roles within the home

  • Overcoming the urge of saying “I’ll just do it myself”

  • Developing the “why” behind your systems at home

  • Examples of how you can have these conversations with your partner

  • Implementing CPE (conception, planning, execution) and minimum standards of care

  • Eve plays the Fair Play Card Game with Raeann and Kristina and we get to learn more about their family systems growing up

  • Feeling deserving of your free time

“Even though time is our most valuable currency, we’re taught to give it away for free.” - Eve Rodsky

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Learning to Say No

Have you felt torn between what you think you should do versus what your gut is telling you you want to do? Whether it’s to make a friend or family member happy, a work opportunity or FOMO – saying no to things that sound like a good idea or that you know would make someone you care about happy is extremely hard to do. As finances and the balance between work and a social life become more challenging to manage in adulthood, it’s important to be aware of your options and understand how to make the right decision for YOU. In today’s episode, Raeann and Kristina talk about recent decisions that have been hard to make, and walk through their process of how they decide when and how to say no. If you struggle with setting boundaries, prioritizing your time, preparing for big goals and managing finances this episode is for you! 

“Saying no gives you the time to do the things you actually want to do.” - Kristina

What we talk about:

  • Kristina’s Coachella experience - addressing the drama

  • Validating how difficult it is to shop in-store and find a size that fits

  • Shifting your mindset when you feel left out and your ego is in the way

  • Why it’s so hard to say no

  • How to decide when to say no

  • Navigating money/financial obligations 

  • How to communicate boundaries with others

  • Why Kristina almost quit blogging and content creation

  • Ask away: how to recover from sleeping with someone after the first date that you want to see again

“You have to start thinking about the value that these decisions bring when it comes to money and what’s worth it for you – and sometimes it’s saying no.” - Raeann

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Breaking Down Stereotypes with Olympic Athlete Ilona Maher

Olympic athlete and Tik Tok star Ilona Maher’s confidence is contagious. She started playing Rugby as a senior in college then made it as an Olympic Rugby player in the 2020 Tokyo Olympics where she went viral on Tik Tok with her witty commentary and insightful view into the Olympic Village. Ilona is hilarious, and an incredible role model for women and girls by encouraging us to embrace our strength and athleticism. In this episode we talk about the false stereotypes around Rugby players, how playing a sport has helped her confidence, how to deal with people saying you’re “too much,” dating stories and advice, overcoming insecurities and so much more. We had a blast chatting with Ilona and know you’ll love this episode! P.S. Make sure to check her out on Tik Tok if you haven’t already.

“Not all bodies are meant to be slim and it’s such a fable that we’re told that you want to be as thin as possible in order to be beautiful.” - Ilona Maher

What we talk about:

  • Raeann’s new most embarrassing moment 

  • Raeann and Kristina’s take on the new Skims campaign

  • How playing a sport can increase your confidence

  • What’s helped Ilona become more confident 

  • How dating has been for Ilona

  • How to get past hangover anxiety 

  • Dispelling the stigma of being 200 pounds

  • Stereotypes vs the actual Rugby culture

  • Working through the fear of being “too much”

  • Ask Away: How to make friends with coworkers when you work remotely

“What’s helped me to get confidence is having a purpose or something to do with my body to show what it's capable of and appreciate it.” - Ilona Maher

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