How to Resolve Conflicts and Reconnect with Your Partner

Most of us want to be in a happy and healthy long term relationship, right? But the reality is, in order to get there, it takes a lot of work. If that sounds daunting and overwhelming, today’s guest is sharing her easy to integrate tips to help you through different phases of your relationship, and build a relationship that lasts. Kim Polinder is an individual and couples counselor whose training in traditional therapy and energy work has helped her create her holistic approach to issues such as anxiety, couples communication, childhood trauma and low self esteem. Check out this episode to learn the essential elements of a long-lasting relationship, how to reconnect with your partner, communicate better and build resilience in your relationship.

“You can be as upset as you want; feelings are real. But when it comes to communicating with your partner, it helps to stay specific.” - Kim Polinder

What we talk about:

  • Working through infidelity

  • How to address the root of our issues by processing childhood trauma

  • Common issues among 20+ year relationships

  • Virtual partners and relationships

  • Lack of engagement among younger generations

  • The basis of a successful relationship

  • The importance of identifying value systems

  • How to integrate modern relationship dynamics

  • Romanticizing social media relationships

  • How to reconnect with your partner

“When it comes to deciding who you’re going to commit to, a lot of it is just making the decision to commit.” - Kim Polinder

Other topics:

  • Kristina and Steve’s trip to Ojai

  • Update from Raeann’s heritage trip

  • Another life update from Kristina!!

  • Harry Styles and Olivia Wilde breakup rumors and DWD drama

  • Kourtney Kardashian’s new product line

New podcast episodes of Confident Collective drop every Tuesday.

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Fall Fashion Favorites: Outfit Recipes, Trends & Confidence Tips

Raeann and Kristina started as fashion creators, and honestly, experimenting with fashion was one way that helped us to feel more confident. Because we LOVE helping other women feel confident and good about themselves, this episode is all about fall fashion: what we’re excited for, how to incorporate trends, stay true to your style, our tried and true outfit recipes and best confidence tips when it comes to fashion.

“Find the recipe that really works for you then just have fun with iterations. Because you know you're going to feel good when you walk out the door.” - Raeann

We also talk about:

  • Raeann’s trip to Mexico for a friend’s bachelorette weekend

  • Toxic masculinity & men who can’t be open about their feelings in front of other men

  • Kristina’s funk

  • What Kristina’s parents have been lying to her about her whole life

  • Raeann’s upcoming heritage trip & Scandinavian style

  • Being unique and unafraid to wear things that aren’t trendy

  • Tips for trying new things and embracing trends

  • Being confident in & finding your own personal style

  • How to stay confident when people make comments about your clothing

  • Outfits we wore that make us cringe now

  • Ageism in fashion 

  • ASK AWAY: “As someone who works in social media, how can I find the balance between being on my phone for work, creating content, taking photos and being present and in the moment with who I’m with?”

“You have to remember who you’re dressing for and why. If you’re dressing for yourself,  only your opinion matters.” - Kristina

New podcast episodes of Confident Collective drop every Tuesday.

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Your Guide to Plus-Size Style Confidence: Size Inclusivity in Fashion, Shopping Sustainably & How to Launch an Extended Size Collection with Nicolette Mason

It sucks to go shopping and find something you love, only to realize it isn’t made in your size. We have been there too many times, and talk a lot about how brands need to be more size inclusive. Our girl Nicolette Mason has been on the frontlines of this important conversation for a long time, and is truly a pioneer of change in the fashion industry in the best ways. She is one of the first plus size content creators we met in LA, and both Raeann and Kristina have been following her journey and benefiting from her content for forever. Nicolette is not only a content creator, Marie Claire writer, and designer, she’s also a consultant for fashion brands who want to expand their sizing to be more inclusive. In this conversation we dive deep into the tangible steps brands can take to be more size inclusive, the challenges they face that consumers may not see, what’s considered size inclusive, how “size inclusive” is being used as a marketing tool and how to separate your value and worth from the size of clothing you wear.

“No one looks at a plus size person and thinks, ‘I want to be fat,’ because the world we live in literally makes being fat horrible. What’s wrong with letting someone exist in their body in clothes that make them feel good? And why are people so upset about it?” - Raeann

We also talk about:

  • How Kristina feels now that the news is out!

  • How men and women perceive having sex on the first date

  • “You have such a beautiful face” - is it really a compliment as a plus size person?

  • Justice for Britney

  • Abercrombie’s ad with a visibly plus size content creator backlash

  • What we say to people who think “fat celebration” is a thing

  • How Nicolette gets clients for her brand consulting partnerships

  • How she called out Marie Claire and got a job

  • What's challenging for brands in becoming more size inclusive

  • Old Navy’s size expansion “failure”

  • Opportunities for smaller brands to be more size inclusive 

  • Brands that are expanding sizing well

  • A shift in consumerism, sustainability and fast fashion

  • Value and worth being attached to a size/number

  • Scarcity mindset in plus size women developing personal style

  • What is considered “size inclusive” in Nicolette’s opinion

  • What Nicolette would like to see from the fashion industry in the future

  • Boundaries as a content creator

  • Ask Away: Should I tell my friend I have a crush on a guy she’s hooking up with knowing that she doesn’t have serious feelings?

“Our bodies are so individual. Assigning any sense of morality or superiority or inferiority based on an arbitrary number, that’s literally arbitrary, there's no consistency from one brand or style to the next. We can’t assign our value or worth based on that.” - Nicolette

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