Confidence in the Bedroom with Raquel Savage

Raquel is a therapist, educator, sex worker, podcaster who teaches you everything from giving a good blow job to overcoming sexual trauma. Raquel joins us to talk about how to have more confidence in the bedroom. We tackle how to set boundaries, speak up for yourself, know your inherent worth outside of what men think, overcoming insecurities by understanding fat phobia, the difference between feeling sexy versus sexual, how finding your own identity separate from your partner can spice up sex, how our upbringing affects how we view sex and so much more. Raquel truly gives incredible, accessible advice that will help you feel empowered and relieve the pressure we as women put on ourselves.

“The beginning place for people who are struggling with how they feel about their body and wanting to work through that is first naming and learning about fat phobia: how it shows up in our culture, in your family, and how you’ve internalized it. It’s damn near impossible to move through anything with your body if you're not recognizing the system which informs it.” - Raquel Savage

What we talk about:

  • The importance of surrounding yourself with people who you relate to when it comes to building body confidence and unlearning societal programming

  • How detrimental it is to relate our value to how attractive we are to men

  • Educating yourself on fat phobia

  • Importance of setting boundaries and speaking up for yourself with your partners when talking about STIs or wearing a condom

  • How finding your own identity separate from your partner can spice up sex

  • Ask away: What to say to a friend when they are fat shaming themselves

“I’m not even aiming to be sexy anymore. I’m aiming to be alive, and to move my body and to smell good, and to eat things that make me feel really divine, and to do things with my body that make me feel joy.” - Raquel Savage

New podcast episodes of Confident Collective drop every Tuesday.

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11 Lessons from Kristina's 11 Year Relationship

Kristina has been with Steve for 11 years, and has learned a lot throughout their relationship. From being 22 dealing with insecurities to moving across the country to start a new life together and then starting a family, Kristina has valuable insight to share about how to have a happy, long-lasting relationship.

It’s important to remember that no one’s relationship is perfect and not to compare yourself or your relationship to anyone else’s (even Kristina and Steve’s.) We hope this information gives you a new perspective on what you should look for in a partner and what to prioritize in a relationship for it to be the most healthy, loving and fulfilling it can be. At the very least, we hope you feel seen, understood and less alone with the challenges and learnings within your relationship.

“A guy who cares about you is not trying to put you through the ringer, he’s not trying to play games, he’s going to make the effort. He’s going to text you and thank you for a good night out. You shouldn’t have to guess if someone’s into you and if you’re questioning it, he’s probably not.” - Kristina

What Kristina talks about:

  • How to know if a guy is really into you 

  • What not to do in relationships/a hurdle they had to overcome in the beginning

  • What’s truly important in a relationship

  • How having kids affects a relationship

  • Being intentional with who you talk to about your relationship

  • Advice for dealing with extended family dynamics 

  • Dangers of unrealistic expectations and comparison 

  • Not being thrown off by different seasons and phases of your relationship

  • Ask away segment: How to tell a friend they’re not in your wedding

“Sometimes seasons of sadness or anger feel so much longer than seasons of happiness and excitement. It’s important to reflect on your relationship as a whole, and not let those frustrating moments be bigger than they are or overshadow all the beautiful moments you have together.”  - Kristina

New podcast episodes of Confident Collective drop every Tuesday.

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Relationship Q&A with Intimacy Expert Dr. Viviana

Love is in the air. We’ve deemed February LOVE month on TCC! Single or not, we’re talking about it all this month - sex, dating, relationships, intimacy… ALL of it. This episode is with a very special guest, Dr. Viviana, licensed relationship and sex therapist and intimacy expert. We had her on the podcast last July, so this is a long awaited part 2 where she answers YOUR sex and relationship questions! This episode covers everything from how to talk to your partner about money and budgeting, to avoiding the most common mistake new parents make, to how to know if you would be down for an open relationship. There’s so much great relationship advice and tactical tips from Dr. Viviana for you to takeaway from this episode, and we hope it helps cultivate more love in your life.

“I don't think that this should be the time to focus on the pressure of celebrating Valentine’s Day. It’s more about commemorating that love can show up in your life in all sorts of ways, so it’s celebrating the love you do have.” - Dr. Viviana

What we talk about:

  • Raeann gives a dating life update

  • Kristina reflects on chasing the hustle and her struggle feeling proud of herself for her accomplishments

  • Inside Kristina’s partnership with Victoria’s Secret and how she’s helping to represent people in bigger bodies

  • Quick tips for people spending Valentine’s day solo

  • How to start communicating about money & spending habits with your partner 

  • Dealing with insecurity in relationships

  • Advice for couples who are new parents going through a transition in their relationship after having their first child

  • Tips for prioritizing your relationship after having kids

  • Sexual desire discrepancy explained and how to fix it

  • What is needed in order for an open relationship to work

  • Tips for supporting a partner dealing with depression

“Do not lose sight of the fact that you were a couple first, you will hopefully be a couple forever, and you can be both (a mom and a partner) without losing one or the other.” - Dr. Viviana

New podcast episodes of Confident Collective drop every Tuesday.

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