How to Make Dating Feel Like Self-Care & Manifest a Partner IRL

Want to know how to build more joy into your life while increasing your chances of meeting a partner IRL? Today’s guest, podcast host of @datebrazen & dating coach Lily Womble, has your answers. Lily “helps women transform their dating lives from a soul-suck, to an act of self-care, attracting extraordinary relationships along the way.” Sounds like the ideal way to date, no? We chat with her about the internal work we need to do before we start dating, adding more joy, self-love and compassion into our lives, how dating apps can be harmful to the nervous system, where to put your energy when it comes to dating, and what it looks like to date with intention. If you’re in a committed relationship and want to know how to support your single girl friends in their dating journey, she has some great advice for you too. Lily shares so many tangible dating tips that we know will transform your dating experience in the best way!

“Give yourself permission to want the expansiveness of what you want.” - Lily Womble

What we talk about:

  • Raeann’s friends’ wedding recap

  • Kristina’s trip in Santa Fe, New Mexico

  • Balancing craving routine & having a desire to travel

  • What women should ask themselves to determine what they actually want in a partner

  • How to identify how you want to feel in a relationship

  • Cultivating an abundance mindset in qualities you want in a partner

  • Getting to the root of why you want what you want

  • Processing your own emotions and doing the internal work

  • Embracing what you love in want in all types of relationships

  • Reframing rejection

  • What’s a “confirmation text” and when should you use it?

  • The trap of dating apps

  • How to create opportunities to meet a partner in person

  • Ask Away: how to be in alignment with your own desires without feeling influenced by different friends with different interests

“Do what makes you happy and brings you the most joy because that's what you’re going to be doing with the person who comes along.” - Raeann

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Confessing Our Biggest Pet Peeves

We must confess…we have some major pet peeves we need to talk about! It just feels good to release and talk about things that annoy us so we can get it off of our chest, you know? In this episode, we also talk about our upcoming LIVE EVENT in NYC this October, the worst date Raeann has ever been on, and some exciting news from Kristina about a TV appearance she’ll be making soon. In our ask away segment, we give advice to a listener about how we motivate ourselves to stick to our workout routines, and not compare our relationships to what we see on social media. We hope this episode will be cathartic for you like it was for us!

“I’m in my “protect the peace” phase.” - Raeann

What we talk about:

  • New makeup trend Krisitna is obsessed with

  • Raeann’s sublet apartment hunt in NYC

  • Our biggest pet peeves

  • Your biggest pet peeves

  • How to be motivated to get back in a workout routine

  • Reframing food as a reward for working out

  • Meal prepping tips

  • Social media perpetuating the false idea of a “perfect relationship”

“When you tell your partner you’re tired and they’re like, ‘Oh, I’m tired too.’ Stop trying to one up me!” - Kristina

New podcast episodes of Confident Collective drop every Tuesday.

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How to Be Confident While Pregnant

We’re talking about something Kristina is super passionate about: feeling confident and great in your body when it is going through the biggest change, pregnancy. Kristina is going solo this week to share information she wishes she knew before she got pregnant so that you can feel more prepared, and understood, in your pregnancy journey whether you’re going through it now or will one day. She shares what bodily changes she was not ready for, what positive physical changes she’s experienced, what NOT to say to a pregnant woman and how to cultivate confidence in your body and your decisions while pregnant. *This is not medical advice, so please always ask your doctor if you have specific questions or concerns!*

“That stimulation and having that fun with your partner is always such a major confidence boost and makes you feel good and sexy. I think that’s a major win women don’t talk about.” - Kristina

“Every month we didn’t get pregnant with Nikolas I thought, ‘Is it because I’m fat?” - Kristina

What we talk about:

  • The pressure to lose weight before getting pregnant

  • Lack of plus size pregnancy representation online or in media

  • Stressing about things that are out of your control

  • Dealing with everyone else’s opinion on what you should do

  • Fear of not losing weight post-pregnancy

  • Learning to trust your gut and your own instincts

  • Things pregnant women get told that drive them crazy

  • Ask Away: how did you know you were ready to start having kids instead of being influenced by friends who are having kids?


“Whether you’re scared of gaining weight, or what your body will look like, just remember at the end of the day there’s a miracle happening inside of you.” - Kristina


“You cannot stress about things that you don’t know what the outcome will be and that are out of your control.” - Kristina


New podcast episodes of Confident Collective drop every Tuesday.

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