145. Going Deeper with Rosie on Fat Shaming: Navigating Negative Comments & A Size-Biased World

No matter how confident you are, being fat shamed still hurts. Whether it’s intentional or not, overt or covert, no one wants to be fat shamed. It's such a sucky feeling and after talking to our friend Rosie recently about an experience involving fat shaming on a plane, we’re left to wonder, why does this still happen? Why is being called fat such a diss and insult? And why do people think it's okay to say that? 

So, today we’re diving into the root of fat phobia, size stereotypes, and why the term 'fat' is still weaponized as an insult. We’re reflecting on the fat shaming experiences that we've had, how they’ve shaped our confidence, what we’ve learned from them, how to handle these situations, and ultimately how to overcome these negative comments. Remember that you don't have to be a certain size to be confident to be happy.






This might be controversial to say, but for so long I have been saying your life isn't going to be perfect if you lose weight, right? But the sad reality is that people do treat you better and a lot of things are better. - Raeann Langas






What We Talk About:

  • Celebrating Kristina’s grandfather’s 100th birthday

  • How Raeann’s parents met

  • Obsessed with Seth Cohen/The O.C. and Gossip Girl

  • A shocking fat phobic altercation we witnessed during NYFW

  • Rosie’s recent experience with fat shaming on a plane

  • Skinny people are treated better than fat people

  • Unintentional fat shaming from friends

  • Scarcity mentality around body image

  • How we can change our collective culture around fat phobia

  • The lack of representation of people in bigger bodies in media

  • How do we get away from just glorifying thinness?

  • Feeling like we have to prove ourselves with our fitness






The most insidious thing about fat shaming is that so much of it is done in an undertone way. - Rosie Richardson






Where my confidence comes in is, fuck you guys, I'm successful in the body I am right now, and I think I'm confident because I was able to prove them all wrong. - Kristina Zias





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144. NYFW Curvy & Confident Style

Your curvy girls hit up NYFW for the first time and honestly, it was so much fun! We shared a lot of the BTS in real time, but nothing compares to getting all the juicy details in this episode. We’re sharing our POV on the Victoria Secret fashion show, Fashion Media Awards, and the star-studded VIP after parties we attended. Although we had a great time at the events and showing off our curvy style, the highlight was definitely getting to spend lots of quality time together! Hear all about it, plus the fall fashion trends we’re loving, in the new episode.

“Wear what you feel most comfortable in no matter what. No matter what the dress code is, no matter what is cool or not, because if you feel confident in your outfit, you'll be able to have the most fun night ever.” - Kristina Zias

What We Talk About:

  • BTS of the Victoria Secret event and after party ft. Candace Swanepol and Gigi Hadid

  • Our TV segment with PIX11

  • The most embarrassing story from the Fashion Media Awards

  • Making contact with SJP

  • Seeing Pamela Anderson, SJP, Martha Stewart, EmRata

  • Channeling the baddest boss energy

  • Fall fashion trends we’re loving

“A lot of these things are smoke and mirrors. When you think like, ‘Oh my god, this person's doing this. It's so cool.’ In reality, they're begging to go on this carpet.” - Raeann Langas

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143. Ask Away: Friend Fights, Dating in the App Age & Postpartum Confidence

Welcome back to another Ask Away episode where we’re giving our advice on everything from style challenges to conflict in relationships! We’re sharing how the preparation for Fashion Week is going as stylish mid size girlies and we must admit, it hasn’t been easy finding clothes we love that come in our size. Then we’re giving advice on how to resolve conflicts in relationships; whether it’s a friend fight or drama with your partner or family. We talk about the realities of dating in the app age, and how we’d go about defining the relationship. Finally, Kristina gives some amazing advice for new mamas looking to restore confidence postpartum. If you have a situation you need our help with, make sure to submit it for our next episode here!

I have had a serious friendship breakup. The one thing that bothers me the most about it is that I feel like I didn't fight hard enough for that friendship. - Kristina Zias

What We Talk About:

  • Raeann’s healthy hair journey

  • Kristina’s hair transformation

  • A funny story from Kristina’s Vegas trip in college

  • The high maintenance things we do to be low maintenance

  • How our Fashion Week prep is going

  • How to get over a fight with a friend…if you can?

  • Tips to gain confidence postpartum and not be too discouraged buying clothes

  • How to navigate the early stages of dating

  • Dating rules pre and post apps

  • Moving forward after disagreements with friends, family and partners

Where the problem arises, especially in friendships, is when you don't say anything and you let those things build up over time. - Raeann Langas

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